Many people believe that a couple—comprising a man and a woman—can live a normal life together despite their differences. However, there are reasons why this may not always be the case.

Overwhelming evidence shows that men and women think differently, as discussed in books like Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray, which explores these gender differences. The divide extends beyond mere perspectives. When women refuse to accept basic biological facts—such as men generally being stronger, faster, and taller—it can create challenges in finding common ground. Gina Rippon, in her book The Gendered Brain: The New Neuroscience That Shatters the Myth of the Female Brain, critiques the notion of significant innate differences in intelligence or behavior. However, even Rippon acknowledges certain biological differences, including physical strength, while contextualizing these within societal and cultural influences.

Some women, having had opportunities to pursue fulfilling careers, may not fully grasp the pressures men often face to support a family. The financial obligations can leave men with fewer options to pursue their “dream job.” Economic realities, family responsibilities, and societal expectations frequently compel men to prioritize practicality over passion.

Relationships inherently face many challenges, and having daily arguments over seemingly basic issues can wear down both partners. This tension can become unsustainable and exhausting. A notable example is the marriage of James Carville, a Democratic strategist, and his wife Mary Matalin, a prominent Republican consultant. Despite their stark political differences, they have maintained a marriage since 1993, engaging in public debates while keeping their relationship intact. The foundation that holds them together must transcend their political disparities. Without such pillars in place, even love may not sustain a relationship forever; it can easily diminish when the core values that built the relationship are lacking.

Ultimately, regardless of how much love is present, if a couple cannot agree on fundamental truths and values, the relationship’s foundation may crumble.

By Luis de Andrade